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New to Polyamory? Think About Agreements, Not Rules

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“Since emotions are unpredictable, it’s far better to develop the skillset to handle uncomfortable feelings with grace than to try and avoid any and all situations that may provoke them. Rather than encouraging my clients to come up with airtight rules that cover every possible situation, I encourage them to develop great techniques for self-soothing, communicating effectively about difficult emotions, and co-regulating (which means taking care of one another emotionally). That means that no matter what unexpected developments life throws at them, they’ll be prepared to help themselves and each other through it.”