“Safewords are the way kink scenes are quickly brought to an end and they can be literally anything that is known and understood by all parties. The word “No” works, but that can get murky if you’re doing a role play. So often folks go for something that wouldn’t organically arise, like “banana seat” or “canary.” Another option: a spectrum of codes to indicate continuing but not escalating intensity or scaling back a little, without bringing the action to a halt. A common example is the stoplight system of red, yellow and green.”
