“Beyond just attending to multiple partners’ needs, poly people must also contend with deprogramming their own deeply ingrained conditioning. Whether from rom-coms or our own parents, most of what we’ve been taught about love has been filtered through a monogamous lens, so rewriting that script can be arduous, even for unwavering, lifelong polyamorists. The commitment I’ve observed within the polyamorous community to following one’s inner compass and loving without limits has forever changed me. And if poly people were free to live more openly, I believe that their paradigm-busting ways could help inspire others to break free from all kinds of unhealthy and dysfunctional patterns, romantic and otherwise.” https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2023/07/love-liberty-and-the-pursuit-of-polyamory