by Jaiya, a Coalition Partner of NCSF I think that people often make the mistake of thinking that their sexuality is something that is static and unchanging or should be. We put pressure on ourselves to always have high libidos and endless passion. Stop! Just like everything else in life, we …
by Chris Deaton We are two graduate researchers out of Arizona State University who are working on BDSM related projects and are looking for additional input from the community. The projects have multiple phases depending on respondent’s status and desire for additional involvement. There is a survey for the polyamorous …
By Matt Connolly April 6-8, 2018, marks the first time Tucson, Arizona will be the site of Arizona’s first conference on ethical non-monogamy, Southwest Love Fest (swlovefest.com). Created with the intention of establishing an annual forum to discuss the many aspects of non-monogamous relationships, this event will introduce an active …
Gloria was in the closet about being polyamorous for years. What it took for her to come out was being diagnosed with breast cancer. Upon diagnosis, she realized how short life is and that she wanted to be out and proud in all her identities. However, she still keeps her …
by Tiro A few years ago, I was talking to a therapist who knew nothing about polyamory. (In fact, she seemed to know very little about most things and our sessions were more like a series of 45-minute lectures on alternative lifestyles—thanks, National Health Service!) I was attempting to explain …
Why I Started Perverts of Color by Jaki Griot When I began attending local kinky event around 2006, I was often one of the only Black faces in the dungeon. I knew I wanted to learn about rope and kinky power dynamics because I read every book I could …
by Russell J. Stambaugh, PhD, DST, CSSP Back in April, the New York Times printed a review of Mary Gaitskill’s new book, “Somebody with a Little Hammer: Essays”. Those of you who have been paying close attention know that Gaitskill is the gifted author of the short story that became …
By Lucia Caltabiano The holidays are a unique for many folks. It’s time for families, friends, gifts, and parties. For trans folk this can be the case or it can be complicated, bitter sweet, or entirely the opposite. Trans folk have a vast continuum of experiences and views. Just like …
by Race Bannon A friend of mine, Stormy Styles, related strongly to a recent post she saw on Facebook. She copied and edited the text a bit to add some of her own thoughts, then posted it to her Facebook timeline. The reaction was remarkable. The post was quickly shared …
By Benjamin Schenker When using dating apps, I’ve often seen a question to the effect of “Would other people be shocked by something you own?” Personally, I don’t know, but I am sure that I have some things that I’d rather people not see that I own. In general, my …
