Regardless of the exact agreements at play, a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” relationship structure allows people to receive only the information they actually want to receive, within a container that is safe, loving, and consensual. “It offers a clear and intentional way to create a filter valve on the flow …
By Bob Hannaford, Naughty Events Discrimination sucks. It doesn’t matter if it’s because of race, religion, age, disability, or sexual orientation, any and all forms of discrimination sucks. Recently, the Supreme Court handed down a decision, on its last day of its term that nondiscrimination laws could not be enforced …
“Studies find that about one in five persons has had an open relationship, the same proportion of the population that owns cats, according to Moors. Think about the number of people you know who have a feline for a pet. A similar number of those in your social circle have …
“When issues like swinging are discovered, however, the laissez faire impression that the government gives some applicants by not asking about the conduct quickly shows itself as a façade. Suddenly, the government does have an interest in the applicant’s sex life, and a deeply invasive one at that. It is …
“Beyond just attending to multiple partners’ needs, poly people must also contend with deprogramming their own deeply ingrained conditioning. Whether from rom-coms or our own parents, most of what we’ve been taught about love has been filtered through a monogamous lens, so rewriting that script can be arduous, even for …
“I am speaking over Zoom to Luke Brunning, a philosopher at the University of Leeds whose research focuses on relationships. He is explaining an idea he called the “paradox of prevalence”. “It’s such a common experience to feel attraction to more than one person at a time romantically, it’s something …
“[Compersion is] that joy that has nothing to do with your joy,” relationship coach specializing in consensual non-monogamy Effy Blue told Mind Body Green. “It’s sympathetic joy or unselfish joy, where you are joyful for the other person for things that have nothing to do with you. You’re just happy …
“If polyamory has entered its cultural adolescence, swinging is its elder cousin who has long outgrown the kids table at Thanksgiving. The swinger lifestyle is probably the most normalized form of non-monogamy with its own reality TV shows, all-inclusive resorts, and origin story lore that includes World War II Air Force pilots. And no, …
It may seem all a bit nit-picky and confusing, but the differences between these two terms is important to understand. Words not only have power in creating and finding community, but they also help keep communication healthy and honest in your relationships. “It’s important to define your relationship with other …
“Whatever sexual experience they’re having is gratifying to you,” says AASECT-certified sex therapist Janet Brito, PhD, founder of the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health. “Not everyone can feel this way when sharing a partner emotionally and sexually with someone else,” Brito says, so if it’s not something that you’ve …
