Guest Blog: You’re Not Sexually Broken. Discover Your Stage of Sexuality!

by Jaiya, a Coalition Partner of NCSF

I think that people often make the mistake of thinking that their sexuality is something that is static and unchanging or should be. We put pressure on ourselves to always have high libidos and endless passion.

Stop!  

Just like everything else in life, we go through sexual changes. 

For vulva bodied humans these changes may be caused by pregnancy and childbirth or aging.  

For penis bodied humans age and health also play a major role in their sexuality.

And there are many other factors affecting your eroticism..

There are some stereotypes about human sexuality that do harm to our sense of wholeness.  Misconceptions that… 

  • Vulva bodied people should always be juicy and orgasmic. 
  • Penis bodied humans should always be hard and horny.  

Thinking in this way can leave us feeling alone, depressed and abnormal. 

The truth is that we all experience changes and that there is nothing wrong with these evolutions, because things always change and shift. It’s normal!  

You are not broken or wrong for being exactly where you’re at.

In my private practice and in serving thousands of clients I have uncovered The 5 main stages of sexuality.  

I created these stages as a way to help people understand where they are on the spectrum, to give context to something that may feel mysterious and even disorienting and disempowering. That is unless you have this empowering information framework to help you understand YOU.

There is so much bad and incorrect information being given out by the school system and Doctors and propagated by the media about sex.  

It’s hard not to feel like something is wrong with you if you aren’t living up to what’s portrayed in pop culture or if you’re told by a Doctor something like, “Your pain during sex is normal.  You’ll just have to learn to live with it. Here’s some numbing cream that should help.”  

Yikes!!!

Let’s look at your sexuality as full-spectrum sexuality. 

You might experience all five of the Stages of Sexuality I’m discussing here over the course of a month, a year, a decade or even all in one day.  

One stage is not better than the other, but if you’re in a stage that doesn’t suit you or you’re feeling stuck, you can use certain tools to help you get to where you want to be.  

Also, keep in mind that you can be in more than one stage at a time.  

Right now, I’m toggling between Adventurous, Transformational and Resting Stages.  

Personally, I’ve been in every stage. 

So, wherever you are right now, I can assure you that I’ve probably been wherever you are and I’ve worked with thousands of clients who’ve been there too.

These stages give you an opportunity to embrace or even celebrate where you are and move towards practicing Full-Spectrum Sex.

Embrace your sexuality exactly as it is – Discover your Sexuality Stage at this link.

Learn the revolutionary new language of sexual fulfillment and discover your Erotic Blueprint™ Type – Take the Blueprint Quiz at this link!