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‘I’m In A Polyamorous Relationship—Here’s How It Works’

on Tuesday, 20 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Women's Health For Nico and I, the benefits far outweigh the challenges. I feel safe in our relationship. In monogamy, there’s often this fear of “But what if they leave me?” With polyamory, that fear is gone because no one needs to cheat or lie, and we’ve built this place of trust where we can really talk about what’s working and what’s not working. And that feels like a better place for me. Being poly allows us to be authentic and explore what makes us happy in our lives in a way I didn’t feel like I could in monogamous relationships.

NCSF Celebrated its 21st Anniversary in Atlanta!

on Friday, 16 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

At NCSF's Annual Meeting on March 9th in Atlanta, GA, the Coalition Partners elected the Board Members and discussed new and ongoing projects, like Consent Counts which aims to decriminalize sexual conduct between consenting adults.

NCSF was fortunate to have Aida Manduley, MSW, provide a 3-hour diversity training on Sunday for the Board and Staff so we can continue the process of ensuring NCSF is a welcoming and accessible organization for everyone. We're looking forward to our next training!

NCSF would like to thank LLC for donating the room for NCSF's Annual Meeting prior to the Leather Leadership Conference. NCSF would also like to thank our Coalition Partner, 1st Capital Finance and NCSF Southeastern Advocates, the House of Trei, for providing a delicious lunch and great conversation during the Annual Meeting.

This year 11 people ran for the NCSF Board, all of whom had excellent qualifications. The current Board Members are:

Susan Wright, Chairperson
Keira Harbison, Vice-Chair
Kevin Carlson, Treasurer
Jackie Harris, Secretary
Ruby Bouie Johnson
Judy Guerin
Richard Richbart
Max Rulz
Ben Schenker
Rudy Serra
Russell Stambaugh
Julian Wolf

The Coalition Partners who attended the NCSF Annual Meeting were:

1st Capital Finance
DC Sub Club
MAsT Boise
Modern Tribe Counseling
Satin Sheet Dreams
The Mark
The Red Chair
The Woodshed

NCSF Board Members and staff participated in events throughout the weekend in Atlanta:

LLC, the Leadership Conference – Workshops and an Award!

The “Leadership in Action” Leadership Awards were presented to both NCSF and the Men of ONYX by LLC XXII on March 9th, in recognition of our contribution of our skills, time and effort into sharing with and being supportive of our community. NCSF presented 3 workshops: Liberation is Felt, Seen, and Heard conceptualized by Ruby B. Johnson, and presented by Choc Dionne and Aida Manduley; BDSM, Consent & the Law with Judy Guerin, Richard O. Cunningham and Rudy Serra; and Media Strategy and Tactics with Susan Wright. NCSF also celebrated our 21st Anniversary by bringing a birthday cake to the LLC Hospitality Suite on Saturday.

 LLC cake

Keira Harbison, Susan Wright, Kevin Carlson and Ben, LLC Chair

LLC Hospitality Suite with Onyx Pearls

The Women of ONYX Pearls Southeast celebrating NCSF's 21st Anniversary in the LLC Hospitality Suite with Susan Wright, NCSF Chairperson

 Atlanta Poly - Consent Counts with NCSF!

NCSF met with the polyamory community in Atlanta to share our experiences in a roundtable discussion led by Nickie Fuentes, MS LPC, NCC of Modern Tribe Counseling, along with NCSF Board Members - Keira Harbison and Kevin Carlson.

 Rope Bite at 1763 - Celebrating NCSF's 21st Anniversary!

NCSF enjoyed "Rope Bite @Nite" a rope-centric event held the second Saturday of each month at 1763 from 8-2pm. The evening started out with a class and demo focused on rope education and then evolved into the Decadence play party. NCSF brought a birthday cake to celebrate our 21st anniversary with Rope Bite members!

 Whippersnappers - Consent & the Law Presentation

Whippersnappers is an Atlanta-based educational and social BDSM group for people in their 20s and 30s. NCSF Board Members Judy Guerin and Rudy Serra along with Dick Cunningham presented a BDSM, Consent and the Law discussion on Friday evening to talk about consent and NCSF's American Law Institute Project.

The Loft and Trapeze - NCSF Meets & Greets

NCSF Board members Keira Harbison and Rich Richbart along with Kim, representing Coalition Partner Satin Sheet Dreams, attended The Loft on Friday night and Trapeze on Saturday night to do outreach to the Lifestyle community organizers and members.

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Christiane Amanpour Explores 'Sex & Love' in CNN Series

on Friday, 16 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


Each installment of the six-part series — which starts March 17 at 10 p.m. — explores sex, intimacy and relationships in a different city. In Berlin, Amanpour visits the city's sex clubs; at a BDSM workshop, ropes are thrown around her while she’s interviewing the "king" of bondage. But she also meets a young Afghan refugee, pregnant with her third child, who is shocked when Amanpour asks her if she believes she has the right to be happy. In Tokyo, she examines a culture where public displays of affection are exceedingly rare, sexless marriages are common and an astounding 40 percent of adult men are virgins. But she also meets an utterly charming couple who have created a group called the "Adoring Husbands Association." (One of the rituals has the husband scream “I love you” to his wife — in public, at the top of his lungs.) She meets a transgender star in Shanghai and an all-female motorcycle gang in New Delhi.

Guest Blog: Southwest Love Fest - Arizona's First Conference on Ethical Non-Monogamy

on Thursday, 08 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

By Matt Connolly

April 6-8, 2018, marks the first time Tucson, Arizona will be the site of Arizona's first conference on ethical non-monogamy, Southwest Love Fest ( Created with the intention of establishing an annual forum to discuss the many aspects of non-monogamous relationships, this event will introduce an active and growing national community to some of our best known leaders and mentors in the practice of Polyamory. Kevin Patterson, Dr. Elizabeth Sheff, the Multiamory Crew, Cunning Mix and Lusty Guy as well as NCSF's own Susan Wright, will be some of the presenters sharing their experience with attendees.

As one of the leader's of Phoenix's Polyamory community and a member of NCSF, I was very excited to hear about the planning of this event. I attended the first organizational meeting and signed up to fill the role of Volunteer Coordinator. I like to think of myself as a Poly Advocate so I was happy to get involved in helping to create this conference. Advocacy for me means both living the practice of ethical non-monogamy as well as offering support in whatever position I'm able.

Please visit our website for more information and to purchase tickets. We look forward to seeing you there!

What I Learned When I Got Polyamory 'Wrong'

on Tuesday, 06 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


"I still define myself as poly, but polyamory is about keeping an open mind. It’s an attitude, not a job description. Though I may be in one single relationship currently, that may not always be the case, because the integral part of polyamory – the vital thing I learned when my first relationship failed – is that patience is key."

Can you be in love with two people at once? ‘The Bachelor’ keeps raising the question.

on Tuesday, 06 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Washington Post

Nor is it always monogamous. “One clever solution to the unique dilemma the bachelor is in would be to offer both finalists a relationship — more specifically, to be polyamorous,” says Rhonda Balzarini, a PhD candidate studying polyamorous relationships at Western University in Ontario.

Meet the Minnesotans finding love through polyamory

on Tuesday, 06 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

City Pages

“It’s not a fear of commitment. It’s commitment, plus one,” she says. “Jim and I spent 20 years together monogamously and this is not a plug to fill a problem. This is something that the parts are greater than the whole and it would be sad to not take advantage of this opportunity for everybody’s life to be fuller, richer, better.”

Avatar Celebrates 35 Years of Art, Leather, and BDSM

on Friday, 02 March 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


The men of Avatar Club Los Angeles celebrated 35 years of BDSM education at one of the premier leather events of 2018 on February 17th.

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