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Sex talk: What even the most vanilla among us can learn from the BDSM community

on Thursday, 20 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Little Village

How do we reframe our expectations so we are not constantly critical of ourselves or our partner? Let’s move away from who-does-what-to-whom and towards a curious and honest exploration of guiding principles that impact mindset. How do I get into the mindset of sex being a place we go, instead of what we do to each other? How do we explore our sexual appetite without anxiety or the pressure of an outcome?

Everything you need to know about using safewords

on Wednesday, 19 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Cosmopolitan UK

"The cornerstone of any good relationship is good communication, and this is especially true during BDSM. Setting up a trusting environment with a new partner takes planning and mutual agreements and, perhaps most importantly of all, the ability to listen. You and your partner need to be equals for this talk."

Here's How a Therapist Coaches Couples Who Decide to Have Sex With Other People

on Tuesday, 18 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Time

“I very rarely see that rules create security in these situations. How can we possibly anticipate all the possibilities? It’s an attempt to control, but it might make people feel more out of control,” he said. He told us that in his work with couples practicing CNM, he kept the focus on their attachment bond and let them come up with the rules without getting too involved in that himself. In his experience, he said, the rules might change or even fade out in time if the relationship security is sufficiently strong. “My job is to help people who have decided not to be monogamous keep turning back to each other if they feel insecure or flooded with fear. That way a negative becomes a positive. What might weaken or sink a relationship strengthens it.”

Top 5 Sexual Fetishes & Kinks, According To A New Survey

on Saturday, 15 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Bustle

The most common sexual fetish is BDSM, according to the survey. While 32.6 percent of survey participants tried it for the first time between the ages of 21 and 29, about half that, at 17.1 percent, have never tried it. And 14 percent haven't tried it, but want to try BDSM.

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How To Make Consent Sexy, According To A Dominatrix

on Wednesday, 12 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Refinery29

When Mistress Velvet, a BDSM dominatrix in Chicago, spanks a client, she demands that they tell her how much it hurts on a scale from 1 to 10. "I have to be careful and not just ask them, 'Do you like this?' Because I need them to feel submissive to me," she says. That means she's continually asking clients for their consent to hit them and tie them up, which can be tricky when the whole point is that they feel submissive to her. "When I ask for a scale, I'm gauging where they're at so I know how to play with them next time.”

'What were her knickers like?': the truth about trying an open relationship

on Sunday, 09 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Guardian

Maybe we should just burn them all down, these narrow streets that we’ve paved so that our desires move in straight lines. I have grieved, really grieved, over the loss of old relationships. I think of the heartbreak when Wilby says, “One of the key issues with the traditional format of exclusive, romantic relationships is that there’s an assumption that unless it lasts for ever, it is a failed relationship – when it might have been good for 10 or 20 years, when it might still be good, but for a change in one element.”

Women constantly mistaken for sisters are actually in a polyamorous thruple

on Friday, 07 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Yahoo News

“Polyamory requires a great deal of communication, talking, making sure that everyone is on board one-hundred-percent. If someone is having issues, then we work it out together and come to an agreement or a compromise.”

Is The Poly Life More Honest?

on Wednesday, 05 September 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Into

In America, the poly life is actually more common than you think. According to a study completed in 2016, more than 1 in 5 Americans have said that they engage in what is known as consensual non-monogamy – basically polyamory. This fluidity when it comes to the ways in which people are dating and forming connections is what’s so exciting to me. The traditional monogamist society that we live in is changing and it’s so refreshing and shows that people of all ages, especially within the LGBTQIA+ community, are sharing their love with the world, and that’s only ever a beautiful thing.

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