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The Counterintuitive Reason BDSM Is The Best Way To Explain Sexual Consent

on Saturday, 17 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Your Tango

Taking part in such discussions around desires, rules of engagement, and hard limits gives men and women alike the chance to consider exactly what will be involved during sexual activity they take part in together and knowing that, whether or not they wish to go any further with this person. Doing so also highlights and draws awareness to the power dynamics that are and will be present within the relationship.

What the BDSM community can teach us about consent

on Friday, 16 November 2018. Posted in NCSF in the News!, Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Metro

Another survey published in 2012 by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom also found that 85% of BDSM practitioners polled agreed with statements such as ‘a person can revoke consent at any time’, ‘consent should be an ongoing discussion in a relationship’, and ‘clear, overt consent must be given before a scene’. Over 93% of respondents endorsed the statement ‘consent is not valid when coerced’.

Who Really Practices Polyamory?

on Wednesday, 14 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

For years it’s been brushed off as a lifestyle for white liberals — but new research suggests ethical non-monogamists are much more diverse

Rolling Stone

“Poly [and] monogamy existing on a spectrum means people can start building more balanced relationships and have healthier conversations,” Le Cunff says. “Seeing polyamory and monogamy as two polar opposites that cannot co-exist has historically made these discussions more difficult than necessary.”

How the GOP Gave Up on Porn

on Monday, 12 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Politico

What happened? The pervasiveness of porn is a reminder that politics historically hasn’t been much of a bulwark against the most primitive human desires—money, power, sex and, in this instance, a combination of the three. But it’s also a window into the mentality on the right, which has surrendered the fight on many social issues as America has moved left. Even with Trump in the White House and five conservatives on the Supreme Court, there is no reversing the cultural tides that have swept away the Moral Majority’s footprint on supporting traditional marriage and prayer in public schools. The difference is that some on the right still pay lip service to those lost causes. When it comes to porn—more accessible, more acceptable and less scrutinized than at any time during its history—they don’t even bother anymore.

From Madonna's Sex to Lady Chatterley: inside the Bodleian's explicit book club

on Sunday, 11 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Guardian

The Phi shelfmark in the Bodleian was created at the height of the most prudish phase of Victorian Britain – in 1882 – and remained in use until relatively recently. It was designed to protect young minds from material that was considered immoral while also protecting the books themselves from unwanted interference. The 3,000 items in the Phi collection are extremely diverse, ranging from scientific works and scholarly studies of ancient cultures to novels that were once controversial but are now recognised as important works of literature. It gives us a view on past notions of taste and on morality, a kind of sociological snapshot, charting how perceptions of sexuality and appropriateness have changed over time.

It’s Time to Recenter Kink and BDSM as Part of Radical Queer History

on Friday, 09 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Slate

Engaging in kink as a queer person today is part of that practice. It is a celebration of our sexuality, but it also connects us to a community that is larger than us. Queer and kinky communities can continue to thrive and live on, even as they adapt to better fit the social temperature of the time, in order to preserve the community’s history and future. And in doing so, we allow for this part of our history to carry forward, as it should.

February 28 is Metamour Day!

on Friday, 09 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

It’s time to add a new holiday to your calendar! February 28 will henceforth be known as Metamour Day.

 

This holiday is meant to foster positive relationships between you and your metamours, whatever that might look like. It is not about forced compersion. It’s about communal appreciation within our family structures. Metamour Day is a celebration of the unique and special relationships between metamours.

 

As society evolves and non-monogamy becomes more common, the traditional nuclear family structure is constantly being challenged. Metamours are often taking on important family roles such as cohabitators and parental figures.

 

It is important to acknowledge and appreciate the special role a metamour has in your partners’ lives and tangentially (or directly) your own life. As a non-monogamous person, it is worthwhile to celebrate that relationship in order to continue to demonstrate the supportive and beneficial impact of non-monogamy on our lives.

 

Please join the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom in celebrating this day in February!

‘Oh you’re swingers?’; Debunking myths about polyamory

on Thursday, 08 November 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

CTV News

Access to social media is helping people come out, according to Collins. Both Collins and Karley are a part of a secret Facebook group with hundreds of Saskatoon members.

“There’s somebody in your social circle that’s polyamorous,” Collins said.

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