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Can ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ Relationships Work? Relationship Therapists Weigh In

Regardless of the exact agreements at play, a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” relationship structure allows people to receive only the information they actually want to receive, within a container that is safe, loving, and consensual. “It offers a clear and intentional way to create a filter valve on the flow …

Swingers and Security Clearances: How Private Behavior Impacts Personnel Vetting

“When issues like swinging are discovered, however, the laissez faire impression that the government gives some applicants by not asking about the conduct quickly shows itself as a façade. Suddenly, the government does have an interest in the applicant’s sex life, and a deeply invasive one at that. It is …

NCSF Celebrates Generational Leadership in an Interview with Kiley

by Seq, NCSF Board Member and Chair of the DEI Committee Q. Please tell us a bit about yourself including any identities you hold Kiley is an ethically non monogamous, bisexual queer who identifies as she/her/any pronouns but in the sex trade identifies as she/her.  Q. Please share some things …

Love, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Polyamory: A Look Under the Covers of Nonmonogamy and Its Burgeoning Civil Rights Battle

“Beyond just attending to multiple partners’ needs, poly people must also contend with deprogramming their own deeply ingrained conditioning. Whether from rom-coms or our own parents, most of what we’ve been taught about love has been filtered through a monogamous lens, so rewriting that script can be arduous, even for …

I’m a dungeon monitor for BDSM sex parties. I love that my job helps people feel safe while exploring their kinks.

“It’s funny: Our expectations at kink parties are higher than in other settings like mainstream dance clubs or even some workplaces. We don’t tolerate harassment of any kind and demand that everyone be treated with respect. I think kink spaces are where society meets intimacy. We used to view sex …

From open relationships to polycules: is monogamy over?

“I am speaking over Zoom to Luke Brunning, a philosopher at the University of Leeds whose research focuses on relationships. He is explaining an idea he called the “paradox of prevalence”. “It’s such a common experience to feel attraction to more than one person at a time romantically, it’s something …