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How to explore kink safely
“Just because you’re experimenting with kinky sex, that doesn’t mean you need to jump right in at the deep end and passion in the heat of the moment doesn’t excuse rushing in and not giving or getting consent. It can be exciting trying something new, especially if the idea of …
My Night At A Queer Rope-Bondage Class
“I’m grateful I didn’t let my nerves get the best of me. The experience taught me that the “scary” and “intense” stereotypes of the BDSM world aren’t universal. Tying can be gentle and kind, something to create connection of all types — with yourself, friends, or sexual partners. I left …
What We Can Learn About Human Nature from BDSM
“Shame and judgment do go hand in hand—and our culture, especially when it comes to sexuality, is a shame-based one. When combined with complicated feelings about dominance and submission, pain and pleasure, we are prone to negatively judge ourselves and by extension others, in a subconscious attempt to relieve the …
Everything You Should Know About Having a Blood Kink
“Communication is lubrication, friends! Be sure that you and your partner(s) fully discuss and negotiate what the scene will look like and what kind of play is going to take place. Everyone within a scene must have their boundaries respected at all times. Have safe words in place to stop …
I’m a dungeon monitor for BDSM sex parties. I love that my job helps people feel safe while exploring their kinks.
“It’s funny: Our expectations at kink parties are higher than in other settings like mainstream dance clubs or even some workplaces. We don’t tolerate harassment of any kind and demand that everyone be treated with respect. I think kink spaces are where society meets intimacy. We used to view sex …
Why cuckolding is a more popular kink in the US than Europe, according to a sexual fantasy researcher
“When it comes to cuckolding, it flies in the face of the male-centered and monogamous American cultural norms, Lehmiller said. So, a man sexually sharing his wife with another man through cuckolding often comes with a negative connotation in the US. For some, that forbidden feeling can be a major …
Can We Please Stop Normalising Choking During Sex? I’m Looking At You, The Idol
“But the most alarming thing about these glamorised choking sex scenes is the lack of consent, communication, boundaries, safe words, or aftercare (read: the fundamentals of BDSM). As any BDSM practitioner will tell you, safe, sane, and consensual play are the building blocks of any scene. Yet when intense BDSM …
Criminal Charges and Consensual Kink
“The Explicit Prior Permission model is an extraordinary and progressive accomplishment by the NCSF and ALI, offering greater legal protection to sexual diversity and, hopefully, increasing the legal system’s understanding of kink and decreasing stigma. Individuals involved in kink and BDSM should absolutely educate themselves on EPP and identify any …
If You Don’t Like Your Partner’s Kink, is the Relationship Doomed?
“Recognizing your differences can sometimes bring you closer. ‘Having different kinks can encourage couples to communicate more openly and honestly about their desires and boundaries,” Rhiannon John, a certified sexologist at BedBible, tells Elite Daily. “Additionally, it can allow couples to explore new sexual experiences … which can be exciting …