by Seq, NCSF Board Member and Chair of the DEI Committee Q. Let’s discuss Consent as it’s this month’s theme. How do you define or frame Consent? As a culture, socially and legally, we’re still figuring this out. The same can be said for the various erotically social subcultures. At …
“Just because you’re experimenting with kinky sex, that doesn’t mean you need to jump right in at the deep end and passion in the heat of the moment doesn’t excuse rushing in and not giving or getting consent. It can be exciting trying something new, especially if the idea of …
“I’m grateful I didn’t let my nerves get the best of me. The experience taught me that the “scary” and “intense” stereotypes of the BDSM world aren’t universal. Tying can be gentle and kind, something to create connection of all types — with yourself, friends, or sexual partners. I left …
“Shame and judgment do go hand in hand—and our culture, especially when it comes to sexuality, is a shame-based one. When combined with complicated feelings about dominance and submission, pain and pleasure, we are prone to negatively judge ourselves and by extension others, in a subconscious attempt to relieve the …
“Communication is lubrication, friends! Be sure that you and your partner(s) fully discuss and negotiate what the scene will look like and what kind of play is going to take place. Everyone within a scene must have their boundaries respected at all times. Have safe words in place to stop …
To get Explicit Prior Permission for kink… 1. You agree to the specific things you’re doing to do and the intensity before you start – this includes any kind of sexual contact. 2. You have a way to stop at any time, like a safe word or safe signal. 3. …
Meeting your partner’s partner in a polyamorous relationship can be a significant step in establishing open communication and fostering a sense of community. Here are some ways to approach meeting your partner’s partner: Clear Communication: Before arranging any meeting, ensure that all parties involved are on the same page. Openly …
“It’s funny: Our expectations at kink parties are higher than in other settings like mainstream dance clubs or even some workplaces. We don’t tolerate harassment of any kind and demand that everyone be treated with respect. I think kink spaces are where society meets intimacy. We used to view sex …
Negotiation allows individuals to express their desires, express their limits or boundaries, and work together to find a mutually satisfying and enjoyable sexual experience. It promotes a culture of consent, respect, and communication, which are essential for healthy and positive sexual encounters. Get your own Consent Infographics – https://ncsfreedom.org/2download-consent-signs/
“When it comes to cuckolding, it flies in the face of the male-centered and monogamous American cultural norms, Lehmiller said. So, a man sexually sharing his wife with another man through cuckolding often comes with a negative connotation in the US. For some, that forbidden feeling can be a major …
